Bitter and PO'ed

[Kattitude]

Laurie I know you try to keep it all on a even keel the best way you can. Im sure if it was up to you it would be thrown open to all. Like others said you cant take on the emotions of everyone else and try to fix what is wrong. It will make you bitter and angry!!! You do your best and thats all one can ask.


okay my take on the whole f/c thing. In my hey day as a fan when I loved the whole SG thing and loved everyword Darren said.. I would of HAD to of joined the DH fanclub just to be part of chats etc, even though in principle Im against the idea of a paying Message board. I think paying for the magazine and member ticket perks is fair enough. I think its become such a issue in this fanbase because the dynamics of this fanbse use to work so differently. We also kind of had distaste as a whole for people who acted in the know and couldnt tell. We kind of lived to share every little snippet of info we could find. It was like joy to be the first to share it. I think now a little of the joy has been taken away. Its not necessarily a divided fanbase but its definately not a united one. I think the split of SG contributed to how people feel about everything these days. I guess you could imagine Darren saying "Dont waste your money on paying for my FC donate it to charity". I know there was a SG fanclub but Savage Fan was still a free for all board. Whether people are right or wrong they feel the way they do.. and sometimes they express that in anger. I dont blame F/C members they have rules to follow and I respect that. I just think its sad that it has come to this.


Kat

<font color="#9966FF" size="1">[ May 29, 2003 01:17 AM: Message edited by: Kattitude ]</font>

[Dyan]

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I realize more and more how special that was back then. And the funny/sad thing is that I don't think we cherished it nearly enough at the time.

[cherish]

Apologies, I had to come back here and vent. I didn't want to start a new thread - so I might be going off topic a little but still perhaps staying with the same theme - I hope.
I just realized that basically, some of the f/c members do feel they are elite over other fans...and it's not the non-members who are annoyed over Darren's surprise chat. It is the members who couldn't be there...there's a hell of a lot more animosity and bad feelings coming from members than non-members at the moment. Now I KNOW I would probably be feeling the same way and I will most likely feel the same way when I miss such a chat.
But it's not that really...some of my friends who are members are incredibly pissed off that they missed it and even when I checked with them to see if they were OK, give them a hug or two, they knew I'd been in the chat and went noticeably cold on me. One person on MSN refused to talk to me. I hate that it's like this...there's so much jealousy and hatred and stuff...and I can't stand it. Like I said, I would probably be feeling the same way so I'm kind of a hypocrite, I will be in the same situation one day I'm sure. But...sorry, yeah I just feel upset that I'm being zoned out by my friends for something I have no control over.

I know I went completely off topic, but I thought this was the best place to vent [img]smile.gif[/img]

xxSam

[Twizzle]

That's bad for you Sam and it's very silly of the others to take out their disappointment on you or anyone that was fortunate enough to be in the right place at the right time. *hugs you*

However, having just read the thread in question, I find the attitude of some of the 'fortunate' ones towards those who are terribly upset at missing out to be really harsh and brittle. I swear that some of those ppl have no compassion or feelings. They are extremely selfish individuals. [img]frown.gif[/img]

<font color="#9966FF" size="1">[ May 29, 2003 04:51 AM: Message edited by: Twizzle ]</font>

[Bromley]

Just popped in here and seen Sam's posts. I can't believe the jealousy that is occurring over the chat. I missed the chat yesterday cos I was at work, so wouldn't have been involved anyway and I missed the Darren chat a few weeks back when he was on. Like I said then and I said in a thread yesterday I'm pleased for the people who had the opportunity to be in there, good luck to them. I think it's really awful that people are treating you this way, Sam, you don't deserve it and I sincerely hope it's in the minority. I'm glad you got the opportunity to be in the right place at the right time. I was a bit peeved he did it during the day but hopefully I will get the opportunity on Saturday and there may be other occasions when I get the chance to chat and others wont. I hate this petty jealousy, it's a real shame because at the end of the day we're all on here and the other boards for the same reason. I hope all this upset hasn't spoiled yesterday for you Sam, please don't let it. I've been down this road before with another fanbase and I know from experience how nasty it can be.

Sending hugs to you, Sam, don't let em get you down [img]smile.gif[/img]

Joyce

xx

[BarbT]

Yes it is indeed sad when belonging to a fanclub and participating in events inspires feelings of guilt!

It's no longer the fun thing it's supposed to be.

[Juliet10]

*shakes head at those who were nasty to Sam*

I can't believe people would be that nasty as to freeze someone out simply cos they were lucky enough to be there when Darren was [img]frown.gif[/img]

Also, the same lack of compassion surfaced on the fanclub board when the winners of the Meet & Greet comp were announced last year, if I remember correctly.

Michelle

xx

[Kattitude]

I say thank god the likes of Sam and Jen were there.. otherwise it would of just been the usual suspects [img]graemlins/wonder.gif[/img] [img]graemlins/sure.gif[/img]


Kat

[cherish]

Thanks guys [img]smile.gif[/img]

As to the Meet and Greet, I didn't enter it because I was on holiday!! Of course I *would* have entered it. But I was less bitter and more annoyed at myself for not knowing...
I was in California and the only time I got to a computer, I went to the Sony BBS (still thriving back then) and not the f/c BBS... knowing that Darren was home in SF as I was according to his journal entry I happily skipped off back to Sausalito where I was staying lol*
But had I checked the f/c BBS I would have seen on the site that they were accepting entries for the British portion of the Meet and Greet comp and would have entered...when I got home and back to my computer it had closed. Sod's law...I got over it though.

Still, I rambled and what I actually wanted to say was that I did notice the same kind of bitterness with the meet and greet and various other things last year, there seems to be a sort of begrudging and sour way over there, even when it comes to congratulating - it's done through gritted teeth.

xxSam

[Twizzle]

....there seems to be a sort of begrudging and sour way over there, even when it comes to congratulating - it's done through gritted teeth.
*****************

That's exactly right Sam!

It's not as nice on there as they would have everyone believe.